It's interesting how diagnosis can be subjective. Depending on the "expert" diagnosing you, the diagnose can even be misleading. In 1991, I went to a psychotherapist, I felt crazy and complained about hearing voices and seeing things. The diagnose was "situational depression" and "postpartum depression." Well, my daughter Kristina had died a years earlier, and I was pregnant again, so that made sense.
After a few more years (1997) I was desperate and thought I was loosing my mind. This time the therapist thought I should be diagnosed with manic depression, and she even considered borderline personality disorder and OCD. Well, in the years after Kristina's death, I had two more daughter, 5 and 4. I was overwhelmed with daily panic attacks, living with a manic fear of loosing the girls. I was swinging between being enraged by the smallest thing, and falling into deep sadness. I was mostly screaming at my children and picking fights with my husband. Friendships was out of the question. I could barely have a conversation with other parents. So, I guess these diagnoses could also be accurate.
In 2006 when I spoke to a therapist trained in trauma, she thought my story sounded like I had PTS. Well, my feelings, thoughts, and behaviors were identical with what she described for someone who was a "trauma survivor."
In 2015, I started co-facilitating workshops with Danny Raede at Asperger Experts, and became suspicious of how well I related to “their problems.” After teaching the BEAM LiFE Process to “these people,” I finally went to a psychologist, an expert on adult autism.
And guess what, at the ripe old age of 58, he diagnosed me with Autism Spectrum Disorder.
So... what do we have? What is "wrong" with us, and how can we heal? And...does it make a difference who is diagnosing us? Dr. Seigel said in his CD-course "The Neurobiology of We", that when he speaks in front of health practitioner, he asks them all the same question, “How many of you have spent more than one hour studying what is right with the brain?" Out of a total of 7500 practitioners, three – five percent usually raise their hands. The rest focus on what is wrong with the brain,
Before the ASD diagnose, as you just read, I had been told my challenges with isolation, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, abuse, alcoholism, unwanted habits and behaviors – and the excruciating sense of loneliness – was due to PTSD from old trauma. This can still be true!
Dr. Seigel says, the typical psychology doctrine taught in universities is primarily aimed at what is wrong with the brain. And if we’re looking hard and long enough, we will find something. As the professional therapists have done with me.
What I have learn from my alternative doctor is to not allow any labels to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s a dangerous trap to allow a diagnosis to become an identity. I have learned to look at all the labels “other people” have given me as a result of my “conditioned behaviors.” And I have been fortunate to find my way out of these behaviors.
That is what I offer to you: A way out of your imprisoned behaviors to experience the wonderful feeling of being alive!
Throughout all these years and diagnoses I have also been going to an alternative doctor, who does not look at me through the lenses of diagnoses but see me as a full human being with emotional and mental pain from unresolved trauma.
Many of the ‘identifying symptoms’ for all these diagnoses are now healed. Not because of diagnosis, medication, or even talk-therapy. But because of alternative medicine, somatic nervous system release, and emotional resolution. Here is where I have been seen and heard and given a space to heal. And this is what I offer to you, a space to be heard and seen, and heal!
Since the diagnose, I have clear insight into the world of recovery while still feeling an overwhelming sense of isolation, separateness, and that weird feeling of not belonging.
I have become an expert on how to develop self-respect, self-acceptance, and self-love, with social ease and comfort in the world, and in the world of Autism.
In addition, I have been free from drugs, alcohol, and any mood -altering drugs for more than 30 years.
Because of my diagnosis and my experience in recovery, I now have a keen understanding of how it feels to be clean and sober…and still not fit in…because of Social Blindness from Autism and PTS.
Also, worth mentioning is that we can also call this condition “Neurodiversity.”
The National Symposium on Neurodiversity at Syracuse University says that, “Neurodiversity is a concept where neurological differences are to be recognized and respected as any other human variation. These differences can include those labeled with Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Dyscalculia, Autistic Spectrum, Tourette Syndrome, and others.”
Life can be lonely, confusing, and so frightening. And it does not need to be! There is a solution – a Somatic Solution – called the BEAM LiFE Process.
By working through the BEAM LiFE Process, I was able to build a life I had only imagined. I have now developed a great relationship with my husband and children, and have built a successful business.
I found a life of fulfillment. And so can YOU!
My journey makes me an expert on Recovery with Social Blindness.
I offer a solution to learn how to “see” others by developing intuition and social awareness. I feel a calling to bring my experience, strength, and hope to the autism community.
If you identify yourself as ”being on the Autism Spectrum” you may find this article interesting: Link Between Autism and Addiction.
I invite you to contact me and find out more about how The Shift can help you change your life!
Also, click here for my workshop on Social Ease.
The BEAM LiFE process cultivates brilliant behaviors to support you and help you develop:
Clarity in what you want
Confidence in what you do
Courage to BE…You!
After guiding people with Asperger’s through the BEAM LiFE Process, I have received exciting feedback of changes and successes in their lives. Many have become free of anxiety and fears that used to block their path.
The BEAM LiFE focus is to help you Get Unstuck from any Life-Limiting Habits and learn Brilliant Behaviors to develop Your Formula for Successful Living.
Know that the perspective is of a person on the spectrum who has recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind a body...me. And you can too!
Contributed by Beverly Vicker, CCC-SLP Bloomington, IN: Indiana Resource Center for Autism.
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